Man. I've gotten some strange.... stuff in response to the 'dating culture in Korea: likes' post. And I'd just like to clarify that, frankly, I think dating people based on race is kind of weird. And, well, racist. Even if you really really love Korean boys because they're all so nice and polite. I still think that's racist (and delusional). And if you just really like how their bodies are always hairless and slim. A little racist.
I just wanted to make it clear that that post wasn't about my preference for Korean men, or how I think Korean men are inherently any of those things. I also would like to point out that none of those qualities are qualities that can be found only in Korean men. Not by far. I was talking about Korean dating culture, not the Korean race, or even Korean men. I think that is an extremely important difference to note. And if you don't know the difference, I think you should probably think about it.
And what really kinda sticks in my craw especially are any comments that lean toward, "Oh totally! I never want to date Western guys again! They're so icky in comparison!" My brother is a Western guy. Many of my best friends are Western guys. I've been in love with a Western guy. They're not icky. And we don't like it when they make statements like that about us. So we shouldn't do it about them, no matter what our preferences may be, or why we may have them. Because in my opinion, it comes across as just as creepy as, "I love Korean women because they're so giggly and cute and skinny. They still know how to be real women and listen to their men." Etc etc etc. To me, just as when I hear it out of Western men, it just smacks of some kind of deeply rooted previously held issue with your dating life that you're blaming on race, that shouldn't really be blamed on race at all.
Most of the truly successful, truly happy Korean-Western couples I know did not happen because someone had a 'thing' for something of The Other. They happened in spite of the otherness, and because love, when it's real, doesn't stop because our faces and our bodies are shaped differently, or our families have different values, or our cultures sometimes don't exactly line up. Inter-cultural relationships are no joke -- not from the outside, and not from the inside. They take a lot of work.
It's not like getting an exotic Asian animal for a pet. Although some of the emails I've gotten kind of make it sound that way. And Korean men don't really deserve that. And I certainly don't like it when they do that to me. I'm not a white girl, or an American girl, or a Western girl -- I'm me. And I don't want my partner choosing me because of any of the previously stated qualities. I want them to choose me because I'm me. I'm sure Korean men feel the same.
So, ladies, check yourselves. Just a bit. Eh?