tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post1022852323548262099..comments2023-11-03T22:34:56.656+09:00Comments on I'm no Picasso: Creepy.I'm no Picassohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-55903572478964100472010-04-13T18:08:07.419+09:002010-04-13T18:08:07.419+09:00Ok, I get the physical attraction preference thing...Ok, I get the physical attraction preference thing. But Liz is right about the racism issue with "Western guys/girls are so gross!" Ok... is Brad Pitt gross (well... actually, I do think he's gross... I'm more into Colin Firth--or Bruce Willis... yum)? Is Angelina Jolie gross (not counting her Billy Bob Thornton blood carrying phase)? They may not float your boat, but you really shouldn't disparage them for it.<br /><br />The further creep factor of assigning personality traits to individuals based on race. Um... what? Just because a girl's Korean don't mean she's subservient (hello ajumma power!) or a guy's going to be romantic. People are people the world over.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03708273691893291730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-86716336220958941252010-04-13T09:12:56.502+09:002010-04-13T09:12:56.502+09:00I don't think people are really getting this. ...I don't think people are really getting this. It's perfectly natural to have *preferences* for all kinds of things. It is not, in my opinion, "natural" to only consider one RACE for potential partners, to completely count out another RACE for potential partners, to classify people based on race as to their likelihood of being a decent partner. I don't buy the "I'm just not attracted to Asians/Mexicans/white people/etc etc etc" line. There are physical characterisitics that present in certain races, of course. But ugly and pretty happen in every race, and if you're counting in all the ugly members of one, and counting out all the pretty members of another (which you do when you say, "I'm just not attracted to ________.") then I think it's pretty hard not to argue that you are basing things on race, and not appearance. And therefore, it is racist. In my opinion.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-59950208209293193842010-04-13T09:07:02.627+09:002010-04-13T09:07:02.627+09:00All this is true, and when looking for a long term...All this is true, and when looking for a long term partner more than physical appearance should be taken into account, but it is entirely natural and appropriate to be attracted to people based on their physical appearance. The first salvo of any relationship is initial physical attraction, and unless one's idea of attractiveness is excessively caught up in a singular feature or fetish like a foot or a nose. Racial characteristics are manifold (body type, skin color, hair, eyes, nose, mouth), it's perfectly natural to express a preference for one race over another without being racist. If it were racist then any preference would be a form of discrimination, such as if I wasn't attracted to overweight women, or women with large breasts.Amandanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05553654875556570397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-40814930071441253842010-04-12T11:26:41.589+09:002010-04-12T11:26:41.589+09:00Burndog -- That's a horrible story. It reminds...Burndog -- That's a horrible story. It reminds me of meeting one guy after he'd been in Korea for 16 hours. He looked at me and said, "What does it mean when a Korean girl touches your shoulder? Because this Korean girl touched my shoulder earlier.... I was just wondering if there was a meaning to it." <br /><br />Seriously? You're here for a gap year before law school? Good luck with the rest of your life. I have to go home and clean my bathroom now. <br /><br />Chris -- I guess we just have different ideas. I don't really feel like height, hair color, or race have any bearing on how capable a person is of being a suitable life partner for me.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-51837537843977779232010-04-11T19:39:39.335+09:002010-04-11T19:39:39.335+09:00AMEN.AMEN.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12463481353432903712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-4664014627923016242010-04-11T17:54:41.800+09:002010-04-11T17:54:41.800+09:00I don't think there's anything wrong for w...I don't think there's anything wrong for wanting a person you're dating to be a given race or country. It's your preference - and if that person becomes the person you marry, then you'll have to make sure that choice is correct. We do the same thing with other factors other than race: appearance, height, color of hair, perceived intelligence / cleanliness level, perceived ability in the bedroom, yadda yadda yadda. <br /><br />Date who you like - but be diplomatic about turning someone down. Do unto others, and all that jazz.Chris in South Koreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07114300133329984235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-20254541508161033452010-04-11T10:55:27.250+09:002010-04-11T10:55:27.250+09:00I agree totally. I met my gf at a point where I w...I agree totally. I met my gf at a point where I wasn't really looking for anyone at all. I wasn't against dating a Korean, but I did think that the cultural differences would make it too difficult to bother with. It is more difficult in some ways than dating a girl from home...but that difficulty can also lead to some very worthwhile rewards. <br /><br />I've had some wonderful relationships back home. Relationships that I remember fondly, and value for the emotional maturity and perspective they've allowed me to develop. I don't date Koreans, or Americans, or Australians...I date people!<br /><br />I actually had an arsehole friend of a friend ask me...at dinner...in front of my gf and others; "How did you get a Korean girl? I've been trying but I can't get one. What's the secret?" I felt like giving him a cockpunch...but I gave him a few words instead. What a fucktard!Burndoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10810891417843137002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-25516216853364722842010-04-11T09:29:34.670+09:002010-04-11T09:29:34.670+09:00whoa... I'd like to read some of these emails ...whoa... I'd like to read some of these emails and have a fine chuckle.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03708273691893291730noreply@blogger.com