tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post7275783097459769678..comments2023-11-03T22:34:56.656+09:00Comments on I'm no Picasso: Clearing something up: 28 = 15 cont.I'm no Picassohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-18332198622612508802012-02-03T06:40:31.728+09:002012-02-03T06:40:31.728+09:00Well that's the other thing -- Busan had girlf...Well that's the other thing -- Busan had girlfriends in his very late teens/early 20s who he never even kissed. Yet a good percentage of my second and third graders (fifteen and sixteen) already have girlfriends, and I've even caught some of them kissing. Which is shocking, again, not because they're doing it, but because they're doing it in public. <br /><br />I also had friends in the US who were virgins well into their 20s. And not because they were socially maladjusted or anything like that. So. It's just pretty complicated I guess.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-5423684837596228092012-02-03T01:31:19.330+09:002012-02-03T01:31:19.330+09:00Possibly another thing to consider, I know at leas...Possibly another thing to consider, I know at least in my situation, is the segregation of sexes for some Koreans. Coed schools are becoming more of normal thing now, but Keunseok & I were literally just talking about this two days ago. After elementary, he was in all-male middle school and high schools. He went to university for one year, but was mostly involved in non-girl related activities, then went off to the military. Even when he came back and went back to school, his major (Engineering) was made up of mostly all men. He was just not given the chance to interact with women very much at all. I don't know what you can draw from that, because I know he is a good man and a good boyfriend (though hardly romantic, but you decide if it's the 부산 남자 stereotype or what (kidding)). But it's just something else to consider.Sidneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04542243748036289309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-83933678056955605022012-02-02T22:16:00.252+09:002012-02-02T22:16:00.252+09:00Daughter's friend! Sorry.
I have a friend...Daughter's friend! Sorry. <br /><br />I have a friend's mother who is similarly a close fixture in my life, and it was always nice to sit around and talk with her. My mom was also always close with my friends. It's nice to have that other perspective, I can imagine especially if you aren't able to be open with your own mother about such things. <br /><br />I mean, she will adjust back eventually I assume. I don't know why it's so difficult to go back in the other direction -- you would think it would be easier, but for me and for a lot of my friends who have been in Korea for 2+ years, the general consensus is that somehow it's just not. But we've only had a sparse few weeks here and there to try to do so. <br /><br />In the meantime, you're right -- if a guy doesn't want to take it in stride, then he can take his walking papers. All the better, right?I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-87738614575498218852012-02-02T22:10:39.716+09:002012-02-02T22:10:39.716+09:00Thank you for your follow-up to my question. Yes, ...Thank you for your follow-up to my question. Yes, my daughter's friend is finding it very difficult to adjust now that she is back in the US. She doesn't understand how her friends, who are between the ages of 17 and 22, have no trouble holding hands, kissing or even sleeping with guys withing the first few dates. <br /><br />I kind of fall into the category of "Mom" to most of my daughter's friends. I have the mind set of "Ask me a question and you'll get an honest answer." I've had questions about school, friendships, dating, sex, clothing, music...Let's just say a lot of these kids find it easy to talk to me and I have no problem giving straight answers to questions they would never ask their parents about.<br /><br />In this situation, I told my daughter's friend she should never do anything unless she was comfortable with it and if the guys have a problem with the boundaries she has set, then it's their issue, not hers.<br /><br />Again, thank you for your response and I look forward to your future posts.Cyndihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00082732314631996685noreply@blogger.com