tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post4993420438028842819..comments2023-11-03T22:34:56.656+09:00Comments on I'm no Picasso: Why I have to adopt.I'm no Picassohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-43385535386014527222011-01-29T22:42:10.838+09:002011-01-29T22:42:10.838+09:00With any amount of effort, my two-years-four-month...With any amount of effort, my two-years-four-months-old kid will not end up like this either, even though this is totally his personality right now. And I do get pretty irritated with him sometimes when he makes up illnesses and whines about them, because it's a learned behavior (which I did not teach him). And then he dive-rolls into the bookshelf and gets a fat black bruise on his forehead and he walks away all smiley like he's just been for a walk in the park on a spring day.<br /><br />I guess this is why I'm glad I'm teaching first grade this next year...at least when they exhibit this kind of behavior, I feel like I can intervene and teach them some new habits before they stick.Lolimahrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00737375070404533179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-41149440464685600822011-01-14T06:04:29.733+09:002011-01-14T06:04:29.733+09:00The reason I like taking my tack is because it giv...The reason I like taking my tack is because it gives me a legitemate reason to snap at the Crier once they start doing it again.<br /><br />Sadly, I teach young adults (20-24) and get almost exactly the same thing. I teach at a yuhak in Canada which has almost entirely Korean students, and rather than being stuck in my class, they complain at my boss. Luckily, I have a very understanding and competent boss who sees right through their complaints ("He picks on me!" "He never lets me talk!" "He..." etc etc).<br /><br /><br />To each his or her own, though, I have faith you'll power through!GMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03534336710229547073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-59339879141381940432011-01-13T12:36:35.776+09:002011-01-13T12:36:35.776+09:00He sounds exactly like a student I used to teach i...He sounds exactly like a student I used to teach in Brooklyn, he was 13 and his mother still dressed him every morning. Ugh. But after a while he started to creep me out-- I was afraid he might snap-- thankfully he never did. I agree with Graeme-- speak to him privately, and then if he continues to be a nightmare, deal with him swiftly and publicly-- there is olny so much the other kids (and you) should have to put up with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-18897401854607370892011-01-13T08:59:29.556+09:002011-01-13T08:59:29.556+09:00Is it possible he has a personality disorder (mayb...Is it possible he has a personality disorder (maybe histrionic)? If it were a younger child, I would say it was likely due to problems at home, but with a kid that's 15, he really should be embarrassed at crying in front of his peers. If it is a PD, then it's very unlikely that counseling or anything else could help him. I feel bad for him (and for you), but...well maybe he came into your life for a reason? Patience, Liz! :DCeilingofStarshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05110238349397590911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-61826421530744766342011-01-12T19:06:43.727+09:002011-01-12T19:06:43.727+09:00Sounds like a case of SSS (Special Snowflake Syndr...Sounds like a case of SSS (Special Snowflake Syndrome). I currently have one also. It's at the point where I just want to punch him when he starts up with the whining and constant bids for attention. (No crying, but he's like thirty goddamn years old ffs so he should have outgrown the whinging by now too.)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15365176281357365932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-44800727628992731712011-01-12T17:07:01.483+09:002011-01-12T17:07:01.483+09:00My lord, at FIFTEEN?!
I'm totally with you on ...My lord, at FIFTEEN?!<br />I'm totally with you on this one, Soonhyun needs something to kick his brain into action and make him realize his behavior is not at all acceptable.fatface_3500https://www.blogger.com/profile/03747365955438477162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-5189194185111796222011-01-12T16:23:42.050+09:002011-01-12T16:23:42.050+09:00See, this is where I'm different I guess. I do...See, this is where I'm different I guess. I don't believe that Soonhyeon needs counseling, or for someone to explain things to him slowly. Maybe you're not aware, but I teach middle school. Soonhyeon is fifteen years old. <br /><br />Soonhyeon needs to understand that he doesn't get to endlessly aggravate other students because he is having an issue. Soonhyeon needs to be taught to handle his own problems. He needs to be told to move the kettle himself and then asked if that was easier or harder than annoying Minjae to move over for the better part of ten minutes. When the issue is then handled, and Soonhyeon continues to bitch at Minjae under his breath where he thinks I cannot hear or understand, Soonhyeon then needs to be told that the situation is finished, and he has two choices: 1. Be quiet and leave it alone or 2. Go out into the hallway alone until he can calm down. <br /><br />In my opinion.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-1956201507149487192011-01-12T14:59:54.019+09:002011-01-12T14:59:54.019+09:00In my time dealing with Criers and Shit Disturbers...In my time dealing with Criers and Shit Disturbers, I've found that the best thing to do (especially while other students are busy actually working) is to pull said student aside, and calmly discuss the problem.<br /><br />"수현, Why are you crying? Because you had less room? Why did you have less room? OK, whose kettle is it? Well, yes, it's the class's, but that means it's mine. So when something belongs to someone and it's in the wrong place, what can you do? Well, you have two choices. One, you can move it away and tell the person why, or you can talk to the person and ask them to move it. So if this happens again, that's what I want you to do, okay?"<br /><br />While it is somewhat labourious, especially when the other students are distracted by said Crier, I've found it's great for shutting them up afterwards when they start to raise shit by cutting them off. "수현, what did we talk about before? And how do we deal with it? Thank you!". The positive reinforcement at the end really hammers it home.<br /><br />I feel kind of bad for the guy, though--he's been stuck with a typically female Korean name.<br /><br />(New reader who found you through The Korean--great read here!)GMShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03534336710229547073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-51097781283457480892011-01-12T14:44:19.216+09:002011-01-12T14:44:19.216+09:00Saddest part is that this student needs to get cou...Saddest part is that this student needs to get counseling. Instead they are being shuffled to a private school then taken home to study.JIWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14828166111322700393noreply@blogger.com