tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post4016025624717776333..comments2023-11-03T22:34:56.656+09:00Comments on I'm no Picasso: Oh holy hell. You're all gonna love this one.I'm no Picassohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comBlogger61125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-91867921808254908502010-05-25T10:47:18.984+09:002010-05-25T10:47:18.984+09:00Thanks Nathan.^^Thanks Nathan.^^I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-45959704209310076992010-05-25T10:44:23.253+09:002010-05-25T10:44:23.253+09:00Nice work, INP
The guy is not someone I would want...Nice work, INP<br />The guy is not someone I would want to have to spend time with; definitely not the sort of guy I'd be comfortable seeing share an elevator with any of my female rellies.<br /><br />Don't let the bastard commenters get you down :)Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10631267390742283872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-38052210956926678202010-05-09T11:53:51.260+09:002010-05-09T11:53:51.260+09:00Jargon?
Rape-minded. Minded. Mind. Thought proce...Jargon? <br /><br />Rape-minded. Minded. Mind. Thought process. Having a thought process related to. <br /><br />Rapist. -ist. Someone who _______. <br /><br />Sorry if that's too illogical for you.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-13725248970121399342010-05-09T11:50:56.428+09:002010-05-09T11:50:56.428+09:00I've asked my favorite adults... there respons...I've asked my favorite adults... there response is "huh?". So for those of us without the specific jargon/discipline/pop-psych background using a fad word then getting upset that we don't know exactly (we get the gist) what you mean isn't exactly logicalTotal Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16758691506881786281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-39698277677885500232010-05-09T08:20:58.593+09:002010-05-09T08:20:58.593+09:00Oh, and one more thing, for those who are having e...Oh, and one more thing, for those who are having extreme issues with reading comprehension, like SC, here: "rapist" is a different word than "rape-minded". If you still can't figure out what that means after I've specifically pointed it out, then do me a favor and go ask your favorite adult to explain it to you, instead of asking me.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-62457505845578317262010-05-09T04:52:41.900+09:002010-05-09T04:52:41.900+09:00Okay, Liz & Tiffani- let me get something stra...Okay, Liz & Tiffani- let me get something straight here. I’m not in anyway defending the original blogger. Yes, he is a scum of the motherfucking earth. I do agree with your original post, well, largely. (“Oh my god. You've cracked it, guru. Korean women dress provocatively because they want you to ride in on your "big" "white" horse and ravage them, saving them from a life of feigned innocence and sexual dissatisfaction.”) YES. <br />But I don’t know why you’re labeling this guy as a rapist. As far as we’re concerned, he found out the sexy woman he was gaping at was a virgin and backed off. Although he has a retarded thought process that clearly never outgrew like, middle school, and says douchebag/scum/retarded things like “What IS wrong is dressing in a very sexual way, and give off a sexual vibe, and THEN end up being someone completely different. In fact, being the opposite of who you are portraying.” This is disgusting, but it doesn’t make him a rapist or a sexual predator. As John said, he thought she was sexy (I don’t understand why he’s automatically a gaping pervert for thinking that) and pursued her, or maybe rather the sex, but didn’t get it so came home and posted a scum-immature-whining-post on his pathetic blog.<br />As John said, the way people dress does tend to reflect personalities/style etc, but obviously just because a woman styles herself sexily doesn’t mean she’s begging the original blogger to fucking save her from a doomed sex life. Yes I see how if the original blogger’s thought process gets out of hand, it could be related to rape and consent – if the original blogger thought “oh wow she’s dressed sexily, of course she’s consenting sex, I’ll sex her up because I have consent” then, he would be a rapist. But that’s not the fact. I don’t know why you keep saying this guy is a potential threat or a rapist. As you said, having sexual desire is not the same as having sexual aggression. Sexual aggression is feeling you have the right to sex with a woman, even in principle, even a little bit, when she does not want to have sex with you, for absolutely any reason she deems worthy of not having that desire. YES, but the aggression was in his head! He never manifested it. As far as we’re concerned, the sexy woman did not know what the fuck was going on in his sick mind. There was no aggression shown, or perceived. mens rea and actus reus!!<br />Tiffani: thanks for taking the 20 minutes, I’ll get to that, but I wasn’t aware that feminists aren’t supposed express their sexual sides? Really?SCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-39606047894333565842010-05-06T19:58:13.526+09:002010-05-06T19:58:13.526+09:00Anon -- You'd want your daughter in his class,...Anon -- You'd want your daughter in his class, then?I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-79366816299221566992010-05-06T19:56:58.191+09:002010-05-06T19:56:58.191+09:00Wow - that much spilled ink over this? He sounds l...Wow - that much spilled ink over this? He sounds like the type of guy who would get really annoying fast, unable to have a conversation about anything that didn't involve sex. But then I get the impression this blog's creator might, too?<br /><br />Sex-obsessed loser, maybe; threat to students? Me thinks you may be projecting a lot of bad experiences onto him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-15306111826313956932010-05-06T07:47:39.170+09:002010-05-06T07:47:39.170+09:00Tiffani -- The thing is, the overwhelming number o...Tiffani -- The thing is, the overwhelming number of *people* who responded to this post, were just like, right on -- both men and women. It's just that the few who decided they needed to call me out went on the longest. That's why I don't buy Mike's analysis that for every one good man, there are ten bad. Because I see far more than one good man here, up against far fewer then ten who felt the need to even slightly defend this guy. <br /><br />Also, I think sexychic is being sarcastic. Also, I wouldn't click on her link if I were you.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-49541840286207103832010-05-06T07:26:07.556+09:002010-05-06T07:26:07.556+09:00Oh god Liz, seeing that "sexychic" sexua...Oh god Liz, seeing that "sexychic" sexualizes her support for palladin while calling herself a feminist makes me kind of nauseous. And I regret spending 20 minutes writing a measured response to her arguments on my blog because if you agree with palladin then you've got to be flat out lying when you say you're a feminist.<br /><br />Also: welcome to rape culture. Any threat to the status quo (i.e. your post) is going to invite the hounds of hell who have a vested interest in preventing the truth from becoming common knowledge. You're obviously really educated on the subject so I'm sure you've seen it happen before. Just remember not to take it personally (not that you would, but, you know...cheer up! :P).<br /><br />You're very inspiring and I'm consistently impressed by your reactions to the bullshit inane comments that get thrown your way.CeilingofStarshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05110238349397590911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-3072398011097754192010-05-06T06:48:00.800+09:002010-05-06T06:48:00.800+09:00Mike -- I'm not really sure how stopping '...Mike -- I'm not really sure how stopping 'sucking each other's dicks' and 'being useful' = 'just ignore it'. I'm also not really sure how 1 honest guy = 10 guys who buy into this crap. <br /><br />What am sure of is, I don't feel like ignoring this. And it's strange to me how many people felt the need to put in so much time and effort criticizing what I've written here and asking me to explain myself, compared to how many people have said anything about asking him to explain himself. That is very interesting to me, indeed. <br /><br />sexychic -- Maybe he'd be willing to travel? You just better make sure you're not a tease with lucious red lips, a short skirt and a V card in your back pocket.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-30558706660406242562010-05-06T03:54:33.725+09:002010-05-06T03:54:33.725+09:00I'm a Korean girl, I'm a feminist. I agree...I'm a Korean girl, I'm a feminist. I agree with John and palladin turns me on. Shame he doesn't live in seoul.sexychichttp://volatiles@hotmail.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-75252167704247386462010-05-05T23:17:48.891+09:002010-05-05T23:17:48.891+09:00I think any rational person can agree this guys po...I think any rational person can agree this guys post raises serious issues. And it seems as though Picasso's objective was to demonize him. Mission accomplished. But now that we're all done sucking each other's dicks about how we are better than him, maybe we can do something useful and try to figure out where this attitude comes from.<br /><br />Its quite simple: this guy is a wannabe pickup artist. Specifically he is part of a company I will not name, because I dont want to promote them, but suffice to say they specialize in teaching expats how to bang asian chicks. I have nothing against a man wanting to improve his skills with the opposite sex but what these guys do is shady, disingenuous, and ultimately negative. Being good with women is about confidence, charisma, communication skills, and an honest desire to connect.<br /><br />But what these pickup guys push is trickery and deceit. And their entire business model is based on employing internet marketing hype techniques to convince prospective customers that they have the answer to their loneliness. As a result, you have inadvertently helped their cause. For every man of honor that looks at this in disgust, there are 10 lurking that will see this and buy into this sham that the pickup artist is selling. The best medicine is to simply ignore them. They are bad for Korea, bad for women, bad for foreigners in korea, and especially bad foreigners in a relationship with a korean. Guys like this will set back international relations 50 years.Mikenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-77387780340602822642010-05-05T12:01:23.585+09:002010-05-05T12:01:23.585+09:00Okay. Rewind.
I know I shouldn't have played d...Okay. Rewind.<br />I know I shouldn't have played devils advocate on an emotional issue. My mistake.<br />Going from the gut.<br />This post (in particular the comments) got my attention because I felt it hit me emotionally. I hadn't even read the original guys post at that point.<br /><br />What I got out of this post was "here's a douche bag with an attitude I don't like. He's probably a rapist"<br /><br />How is that any different from the Anti-English spectrum's "Here's a white guy with an attitude I don't like. He's obviously here to do drugs and steal our women."?Total Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16758691506881786281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-57987462337290279772010-05-05T11:19:09.069+09:002010-05-05T11:19:09.069+09:00Look. Because men are sometimes raped, because it ...Look. Because men are sometimes raped, because it obviously does happen to men, does NOT mean that men have the same experience going through this world having to anticipate, think about, protect themselves from all the fucking shit that women put up with on a daily fucking basis. Nice try at making some kind of "on the level" clever little point, but you just made yourself look extremely fucking ignorant. <br /><br />Glad he doesn't set your alarms off. Glad your alarms clearly aren't as well-practiced as mine are. Enjoy that privilege (you seem to be).I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-41113302807887276542010-05-05T11:14:44.108+09:002010-05-05T11:14:44.108+09:00Maybe I was raped by a man then joined the 'cl...Maybe I was raped by a man then joined the 'clinic' to help others equally traumatised?<br /><br />Too many generalisations in that first guys post you criticised. Too many in your own. Too many in my own comments.<br /><br />We don't 'know' this guy, (while he does sound like an idiot) he really doesn't sound like he has the arrogance and sense of entitlement that would set of my alarms.Total Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16758691506881786281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-13000890148196567102010-05-05T11:04:18.386+09:002010-05-05T11:04:18.386+09:00Total Bastard -- While I understand the point you&...Total Bastard -- While I understand the point you're trying to make, I find it interesting that you feel the need to make it after dismissing every woman here's point of view. So I'm not really that worried about. And I know that men get raped. I've heard those stories in my personal life as well. Glad you're aware of it because you observed it at a clinic.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-11025817027228927222010-05-05T11:02:47.524+09:002010-05-05T11:02:47.524+09:00Why would it hurt the white guy image? He's ma...Why would it hurt the white guy image? He's making valid points, you say, so you deserve him. <br /><br />Look. I'm going to explain this one more time, for the slow kids in the back, and then I'm done. <br /><br />Who do you think rapes women? Who do you think sexually assaults women? Big scary black guys who stand on street corners screaming obscenities? <br /><br />No. Pathetic men rape and sexually assault women. Because rape is not about sex -- it's about power. People rape other people to feel that they have taken back some power. <br /><br />The man writing this post seems rape minded to me not because he says that a Korean girl wearing a short skirt is "delicious", but because he seems like someone who a. has a clear, well-formed grudge against women b. has an extreme dissociation with the human nature of women and c. is desperate to take back power, and the target he's chosen to do this with is women. <br /><br />A number of the men responding here have demonstrated shocking ignorance about the nature of rape. If you have wives, girlfriends, sisters, mothers or (someday) daughters, I'd suggest you stop shaking your heads at 'hysterical' women and their overreactions (all SIX of us here, and a number of others over at my other blog), writing their actual experiences with rape, sexual assault and sexually aggressive men off in favor of your more 'rational' male logic, and the assumption that you are smarter and more aware of the world than we are, when it comes to even our own life experiences, and instead invest some time considering what the women around you are saying as possible more valid than your assumptions about their experiences, considering that they may actual have more insight into something than you do, even though you are big strong rational men who were put on this earth to calm us all down and know better than we do. <br /><br />You all think claims that this man is 'rapey' are hideous overreactions, but none of the women here so far have seen it as a stretch, or even a hysterical subject. Because we meet men everyday who have some degree of this aspect. We're not hysterical about it -- we're quite calm. Because it's just an everyday aspect of being a woman -- A man corners you on the crowded subway and continues to press into you until you find a way to move away. A man yells "hey baby! sexy!" at you over and over and over while following you down the street on the way to work. A man follows you home from the bus stop late at night (remember?). A man won't stop following you around the club, touching you without your permission. A man insists you have one more drink and let him ride back in the cab with you for your own safety. <br /><br />It's everyday for us. We're not hysterical about it. You just don't like having to acknowledge it. Because, yeah, it's awful. But you get off easy, having the luxury of the fact that these conversations stay largely between women. You're not inconvenienced with them, even though 'men' are the ones who are responsible for the behavior. We women have to talk about it amongst ourselves, comfort ourselves, advise ourselves, and come up with ways to cope with and avoid sexual assault and rape, while you tell us just not to worry about it. Because, hell, you don't have to.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-33324138072552673762010-05-05T10:50:19.614+09:002010-05-05T10:50:19.614+09:00As an aside;
Having worked with a health service ...As an aside;<br /><br />Having worked with a health service I find it interesting that everyone here seems to think that its only women who get raped, or only men who can be rapists.<br /><br />Same sex rape is more common then people are willing to admit, and males being raped by women is not unheard of even if it is usually shrugged off.Total Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16758691506881786281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-39409604345852153042010-05-05T09:54:52.447+09:002010-05-05T09:54:52.447+09:00Hmmm... your out of context quotes make it sound w...Hmmm... your out of context quotes make it sound worse then it is. It's simply armchair psychology with a whiney bias from a sexually immature author; but then that describes 90% of blog content. <br /><br />Some of his points could even be considered valid, though really badly worded, if that hadn't been cover better and with more rigor just about everywhere else in the expat K-sphere. <br /><br />Also drawing extra attention to his site is not going to help clean up the white-guy image. Let him rot into obscurity.Total Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16758691506881786281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-36581485139877051112010-05-04T18:40:33.212+09:002010-05-04T18:40:33.212+09:00"However, the reason why the women have react..."However, the reason why the women have reacted so strongly to this, while the men have been sort of oh yeah but just saying I'm not defending but but but is pretty obvious to me -- it's not personal for you. You've never faced a threat to your personal safety because of these issues. You've never had to go through life sizing up the things a man thinks and says, looking at him, thinking, if I get into cab with this guy, am I putting myself in danger? If I have a drink with this guy, is he going to end up forcing me to have sex with him, because he thinks I owe it to him?"<br /><br />Amen and sing it sister. The existence of rape benefits all men. If you think you don't somehow benefit from the curtailing of women's activities and from their "reliance" on you as a "good" guy to protect them from all the baddies out there, you need to wake the eff up.<br /><br />Dammit, Liz. These bastards are making me put on my swearin' hat again.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03708273691893291730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-69109679768968167762010-05-04T16:34:10.612+09:002010-05-04T16:34:10.612+09:00See, that's the thing with your type Palladin....See, that's the thing with your type Palladin. You always want to accuse me of man-hating. But I don't hate men. I love love loooove men. My brother is my favorite person on the face of the planet, two of three best friends in this world are men, I work at an all boys school because I prefer boys (which even I feel guilty about), all but one of my foreign friends here in Korea are male, and for a long time, all of my Korean ones were as well. I find everything about men to be absolutely lovely, both romantically and platonically. I feel most comfortable with men, most of the time.<br /><br />I just don't like people who 'handle' women, who classify women as hysterical, who put the everyday issues of being in a relationship on the level with sexual assault and rape, demonstrating a clear and disturbing ignorance of what sexual assault and rape actually are.<br /><br />This isn't about me and men -- this is about me and you. I don't like *you*. Don't try to drag all the other lovely gentlemen who have expressed opinions on this post down with you.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-79428597680596806022010-05-04T16:25:22.477+09:002010-05-04T16:25:22.477+09:00Hmm so I said I could handle Korean women? Good w...Hmm so I said I could handle Korean women? Good way to twist words to your own use. Listen you can man-hate all day and I won't stop you, but please don't try to disguise it as rational thought.<br /><br />And don't even try to argue that Korean women don't play little games during early relationships. I believed its called 내숭 and you even did a post on it.<br /><br />"That having been said, I have been operating largely under the understanding that, by and large, Korean men, frankly, don't do a fantastic job of handling a woman's sexuality well. A lot of that judgment, I should add, also comes from the fact that before I came to Korea, I was in a big huge liberal artist Brooklyn bubble for nearly six years. Perhaps if I had spent those six years (which are rather important ones to consider, when dealing with the subject at hand) back in my red state Southern Baptist hometown, I might not be so quick to make it a "Korean man" issue in my own mind."<br /><br />Wow that sounds very sexist there ... guess you know how to handle Korean men huh.<br /><br />"I'm more the type who kind of just sneers around at couples (except gay couples -- they are always the exception, and everything they do is perfect and fine by me [I don't know -- don't ask]), and is known for having "friends". In quotation marks. For the most part, I'm not exactly a fan of dating. And I'm not very good at it either, being seemingly inherently far too blunt to allow the whole song-and-dance to operate very smoothly. I also haven't had a single committed (or even semi-committed) relationship the entire time I've been in the ROK. Nor was in one for a incredibly long time before I came."<br /><br />And with all your experience in dating you sure know exactly what your talking about. Guess I should of asked for your permission to have an opinion and to use critical thinking and rational thinking.<br /><br />But hey at least I actually use the real things you say to form an opinion. You just invent words and idea's to put in my mouth before demonizing me.palladinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17991559032581262637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-56946998924769277052010-05-04T16:01:50.747+09:002010-05-04T16:01:50.747+09:00Yeah that's pretty much the end of this one fo...Yeah that's pretty much the end of this one for me as well. I should've known not to get drawn into it, because he's already posted one comment here before talking about how he knows how to 'handle' Korean women. Now he's comparing getting jerked around emotionally to rape. He's got issues with women -- that's clear enough. No reason to engage further.I'm no Picassohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06516337555349888808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21444271.post-49704263229429480992010-05-04T15:26:21.105+09:002010-05-04T15:26:21.105+09:00Oh look he literally just turned around and said &...Oh look he literally just turned around and said "You should have known."<br /><br />Okay I'm sorry no more feeding I'll be good :XCeilingofStarshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05110238349397590911noreply@blogger.com